"Motherhood has taught me the meaning of living in the moment and being at peace. Children don't think about yesterday, and they don't think about tomorrow. They just exist in the moment."
-Jessalyn Gilsig
Motherhood has taught me many, many, many lessons...but one recurring lesson (maybe you can't teach an old dog new tricks...) is the need to stop. Stop and smell the roses so to speak. Maybe this third time around will be the trick!
Too often I find myself rushing to the next task, the next duty, the next item on my forever growing to do list- and too often I find myself getting frustrated with the kids when that is not their plan at that time. However, recently I was "blessed" with two sick children, and when I wasn't nursing the sick at work I was nursing my babies. It was a time that I was forced to push aside my list of tasks and focus on the now - Now is what was important. My babies needed much love and attention and the tasks could wait- they would always be there (and what is a dirty toilet for 1-2 more days really...). It was a much needed eye opener on what my priorities are. While a clean toilet is important, my children wouldn't remember it being dirty a little longer. What they would remember are the snuggles, kisses, and warm arms around them - and those moments I'll hold in my heart forever.
I may be stressed and bogged down with details more often than I care to admit...but I'm working on it. Working on living in the moment and giving my children the attention they need now so that when I have time to stop I don't regret not stopping in the past....
The Perfect Mother
You're not a perfect mother
You yell and stomp and cry.
You get very frustrated
When I (again) ask why?
You're not a perfect mother
Our house can be a mess
and sometimes I miss my bath time
but Mommy, I've got something to confess
I've seen the way your face lights up
when in joy you hear me giggle.
I've felt the love in your embrace
as we snuggle, dance, and wiggle.
So, you're not a perfect mother
those who say they are- are lying.
I love you just the way you are
You're the best, let's both just keep on trying.
